IF THE CHURCH WOULD OFFER HEALING FROM CLERGY SEXUAL ABUSE…
August 20, 2018
A PERSONAL NOTE:
I share with Jorge Bergoglio the same family background (Italian immigrants in Argentina); the same age, and the same social upbringing. I grew up in the same Catholic Church he did, under the same ecclesiastic precepts and tenets. I too learned to answer Mass in Latin, even being a girl!
And, as a conflict resolution expert, I know what is missing now, from the high of the Papacy to the humblest of Catholic parishioners wherever they can be living in the world…
This sexual abuse crisis is different. It can’t be easily covered up, because of the extension of the crime (too many victims along too many years of impunity; too many years without repentance). Precisely for this aspect, and the catholic, universal extension of the Church, this crime taints wider and deeper. The whole relationship between faithful and priesthood is contaminated…and the usual press release proclaiming empty generalities goes nowhere.
Even worse, papal protocol responses offered today, risk confirming the perceived blindness and heartlessness of the actual Papacy.
While thinking about how to remedy the eternal cover-up and mishandling by bishops of abuse by priests in their charge, perhaps a direct apology from the Pope to the world Catholics would signal he sees the hurt caused to innocent children and is himself hurt by it.
This crime demands another, different response to be created just now, based on addressing the hurt done instead of protecting the Church’s reputation..
It could begin by offering a complete apology:
A REAL, WORKING APOLOGY CONSISTS OF:
- ACCEPTING RESPONSIBILITY FOR THE ACTION
- RECOGNIZING THE HURT DONE TO THE CHILDREN (long-term consequences, etc.)
- ASKING FOR FORGIVENESS from the victims (restorative justice sessions)
- PLANNING HOW TO REPAIR DAMAGE DONE, (including using Vatican funds)
- OFFERING A PLAN TO PREVENT SEXUAL ABUSE IN THE FUTURE. (Including educating the whole Church in the prevention of sexual abuse)
Following the steps to a valid, healing apology the Church could heal its failure to protect the youngest dedicated to its care:
Show the world some contrition that goes beyond words with the steps:
SHOW SINCERE CONTRITION:
- Do a video from the Papacy offering your condolences to the affected victims, (can you address them by name and place?), and tell them how you plan to repair them. Therapy?
- Describe a NEW plan including NEW rules for Church Hierarchy to process pederasty cases:
- Get some of the accused priests to do a video repenting from their acts (name the act with proper words: “rape” or “sodomy”, including the victim’s name and date), asking for forgiveness;
- In this video, they have to say what they give up to pay for their sins (honors, financial security, etc.?) How can they do some real repair work, to help the victims?
- Please, not generic answers: (“praying” does not count).
- And how their plan to prevent themselves and other priests from repeating this sin?
HEALING THE CONGREGATION:
- OFFER a wide plan to do damage repair:
- Institute an entity in the Vatican in charge of healing programs for the victims of clerical pederasty. Hire professionals, compile cases, follow up treatment plans, and share lessons of recovery. Educate the world in pederasty prevention.
- Tell the world you will NOT use Vatican money to keep people silent but use the money for prevention and therapy,
- Create training for new priests in sexual and emotional abuse, doing open groups involving members of the laity and families. Get the victim’s families’ testimonies as study material for new priests.
REPARATION OF PRIESTHOOD:
- Create a plan for pederast priests who accept to be reinstated, (and are not in jail) involving:
- Design an intense reeducation plan, including some public recognition of what he did.
- Use a label to be attached to their names. (Inscription in an offenders list?)
- Sending them to RISKY, mission nations, to take care of war victims or older people.
- Being registered in long-term probation registers, working in a special order that deals with people in need of spiritual care, done by sinners, like jails.
- Research and improve methods to identify applicants who could be prone to pederasty.
OFFERING A PLAN TO PREVENT CHILDREN SEXUAL ABUSE IN THE FUTURE:
A.-Local Level
- Institute clear policies from Rome:
- Demand a direct bishop’s connection with police,
- Connect parish with mental health institutions dedicated to sexual abuse.
- Mandate immediate reporting of sexual abuse to Vatican authorities.
- Consider having free services delivered to the victims in each parish.
B.-Universal Reach
- Using this present experience, compile and publish a text: “Impact of clergy sexual abuse in the Church in XXI Century,” as a teaching tool for the whole Church.
- Include local incidence and impact of the pederasty problem in the Church laity
- Research better management of priests’ emotional problems caused by celibacy and loneliness.
- Improve reporting of sexual crimes, and establish legal and canonical consequences in open discussion with parishioners and the general public.
- Use feedback from victims’ experiences to improve the Church Canon when teaching new priests.
In short, offering a sincere plan to address and heal the crime, whatever the cost in prestige or money it presents will be a welcome change in the traditional posture of the Catholic Church.
Thanks
Dr. Nora Femenia
Creative Conflict Resolutions
Fort Lauderdale, FL, 33306 United States
August 20, 2018
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